Recently, I signed up on a popular dating website, that will go unnamed. It is hard enough to meet men who are worthwhile, when you are in college, let alone when you are aging, and a few pounds heavier than you’d like to be.
I have not been having much success. Unfortunately, I paid for a 3 month stint on the site, as it was supposedly less expensive than paying month to month. Had I been clever, I would not have done so.
Most of the men that contact me, write very little about themselves, and are hugely unattractive(in my opinion…). Often, they appear to be nearly 70, and claim they are 50, or younger. Right.
I’ve been on two dates so far. It’s painful.
For the first date, I met a man for coffee, who seemed really intelligent, thoughtful, and warm. I didn’t feel that we had much chemistry, but thought I’d give it a chance. So, after our 2 hour long coffee date, he asked me to get dinner with him later that week. We didn’t set a date.
I spent the morning afterwards, in my women’s group, speaking about how he seemed like a good guy who could grow on me. I started to feel slightly excited about the whole thing. Then I returned home.
He had left a rather long text explaining why he didn’t really want to go out to dinner, after all. How he just feels pressure on these dates. How he doesn’t like online dating, etc., etc.. Did not make me feel perky.
The week before that, a man that I’d met locally, and had gone on several dates with, told me he didn’t want to continue dating.
Perhaps I jumped into the online dating world a bit too quickly?
Then, I went on another date, after the first disaster. This guy was 55, decent looking, and funny. The distressing thing about him, was that he was already in a relationship. He was quite frank about it, which is good.
Apparently, the whole open relationship scene is pretty popular here in Ashland. Of course, most that are part of the scene, call themselves, Polyamorous, to make it sound nicer. I get the sense that more men than women are involved with this movement.
Basically, these guys want fuck buddies. Excuse my bluntness. Mixed in with a tad of resentment…
I’m not excited, to say the least, at the prospect of seeing men who are already in relationships, and just want some extra fun.
I’m also not impressed, thus far, with the dating site I’ve joined.
I’m doing my best to focus on more important things, like nail care, and flossing.
Seriously, though, I’ve been painting a lot, and doing other things that give me a sense of competence and confidence.
I will take myself off of the blasted dating site, as soon as my 3 months are over. I don’t have high hopes, about finding a mate, anytime soon…